Understanding Burnout
by Gwen Randall-Young
I once gave a talk on the subject of "burnout", and afterwards one of the participants indicated that what she had really been hoping for was a quick fix.
Burnout is a little like the process of gaining weight. It happens little by little, over time. Crash diets don't work, and what is really required is a change in dietary habits and lifestyle. You might lose some weight by starving yourself for a few weeks, but unless you have made major changes, the weight will come back. Think about burnout as the result of "bingeing" on work, or stressful situations. Yes, you could escape to an island getaway for a time. But unless you do something about the day to day stress in your real life, you can feel burned out again only weeks after your vacation.
The quick fix mentality may actually make burnout worse, just as the crash diet exacerbates the weight problem. If we are satisfied with quick fixes, we may never address the real issues.
It is worth the effort to learn to live life in a way that feels good, and that honors both ourselves and others. However, doing so involves many challenges. The biggest challenge just might be self-honesty. It can be hard to discern how we really feel in the face of a lifetime of conditioning as to how we should feel. We may experience differences in family or personal relationships and feel that expressing them will create discomfort. Burnout is ignited in that space between what we really want, and what we feel is expected of us. The bigger the space, and the longer it exists, the more we get burned.
This is the level at which burnout must be addressed, and not at the level of its symptoms. Massaging those tense muscles is wonderful. Meditating to find inner peace is beautiful. But consider the possibility of being peaceful and relaxed as a way of life.
If we are merely "coping" with life, if we are living at the emotional "survival" level, then perhaps we are on a wrong path. Or on the right path but doing it the wrong way. If our house were burning down, we would call for help to douse the flames. If our energy, our life, laughter and spirit are burning out, there is a tendency to suffer in silence. We must remember though, there are always choices. Doing nothing is a choice. Going for a quick fix is a choice. Dipping into the deep wisdom of your own soul is also a choice. Choose carefully; the quality of your life depends upon it.
Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning psychologist. For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books, CDs or MP3s, visit www.gwen.ca. Follow Gwen on Facebook for inspiration.
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